The Relationships Thread of Discussing the Enigma that is Women

[TheKoopaDasher]

You seem to try forcing things to move too quickly. You made valentine's gifts for a girl who you hadn't even been on a first date with. You wrote her a poem without really getting to know her. You have to try not to force things to happen. Ask a girl out, and if she says yes, enjoy yourself, but don't start confessing your eternal love to her. If she says no, then it's not really a big deal. You'll probably find someone you like more.

There's no point in getting hung up on a rejection, because it's bound to happen. If you want to make on omelet, you have to break a few eggs.

I think it's also worth mentioning that being "just friends" with this girl is probably not going to work out for you and will ultimately just make you depressed because you're most likely not going to be able to hide your feelings for her. This goes with moving the relationship too quickly, because if you would have stayed lax about it, hearing that she wants to stay friends wouldn't have been that big of a deal.

Take all of this with a grain of salt. I'm not a master at relationships. I've had one serious girlfriend in my entire life, but this is what worked for us.

You're right. It was a stupid thing for me to do. Born more from loneliness, stress, and a need for comfort than an actual readiness for a relationship.

Still hurts, though. In her rejection message she basically told me that I don't know shit about her. I guess I don't. But I thought I did.

[stevencho]

I would suggest trying to make a few actual plain old friendships with some girls. Friendships that don't have a hint of anything feelingswise. Doing this allows you to get to know girls better and how to interact with them without the constant stress that comes when you try to pursue them.

[TheKoopaDasher]

I would suggest trying to make a few actual plain old friendships with some girls. Friendships that don't have a hint of anything feelingswise. Doing this allows you to get to know girls better and how to interact with them without the constant stress that comes when you try to pursue them.

That sounds great and all, but I've had a total of... 5 real friendships in my entire life. And I haven't had any of those in 4 years. And none of them were with girls. I have a hard enough time even imagining what a real friendship is, much less imagining what a platonic friendship with a girl would be like.

[stevencho]

That sounds great and all, but I've had a total of... 5 real friendships in my entire life. And I haven't had any of those in 4 years. And none of them were with girls. I have a hard enough time even imagining what a real friendship is, much less imagining what a platonic friendship with a girl would be like.

Well having a relationship with a girl is harder and takes more effort for me than just a friendship. So I'm just saying that I think it would be a good first step.

[Mariolee]

Fate is the ultimate cockblock.

So, I get this girl whom I used to have a crush on back in Middle School. 5 years later, she turns up again, I ask her to her prom (we go to different schools), she accepts. Everything is dandy right? Wrong. Thing is, I have over-protective parents to whom I owe my respect, who are going out of state that EXACT SAME NIGHT due to business plans. Which means, they don't want me to go because they're afraid if something happens, they'll have to fly back all across the country to help me, and it's simply too far away.

Thus, I can't go.

I know some of you are going to say, "Screw it, just go anyway. Don't be a pussy," but I have far too much respect for my parents for me to just piss in their faces and go behind their backs, so that's not an option.

I'm making plans to hang out with her the day after, but still...what could've been man.

[stevencho]

Fate is the ultimate cockblock.

So, I get this girl whom I used to have a crush on back in Middle School. 5 years later, she turns up again, I ask her to her prom (we go to different schools), she accepts. Everything is dandy right? Wrong. Thing is, I have over-protective parents to whom I owe my respect, who are going out of state that EXACT SAME NIGHT due to business plans. Which means, they don't want me to go because they're afraid if something happens, they'll have to fly back all across the country to help me, and it's simply too far away.

Thus, I can't go.

I know some of you are going to say, "Screw it, just go anyway. Don't be a pussy," but I have far too much respect for my parents for me to just piss in their faces and go behind their backs, so that's not an option.

I'm making plans to hang out with her the day after, but still...what could've been man.

You get on your hands and knees and you beg your parents until they change their fricking minds.

[roza]

Fate is the ultimate cockblock.

So, I get this girl whom I used to have a crush on back in Middle School. 5 years later, she turns up again, I ask her to her prom (we go to different schools), she accepts. Everything is dandy right? Wrong. Thing is, I have over-protective parents to whom I owe my respect, who are going out of state that EXACT SAME NIGHT due to business plans. Which means, they don't want me to go because they're afraid if something happens, they'll have to fly back all across the country to help me, and it's simply too far away.

Thus, I can't go.

I know some of you are going to say, "Screw it, just go anyway. Don't be a pussy," but I have far too much respect for my parents for me to just piss in their faces and go behind their backs, so that's not an option.

I'm making plans to hang out with her the day after, but still...what could've been man.

Invite her over as an apology if you're allowed? Are there no other family members near you or trusted friends of your parents?

[Patches]

You get on your hands and knees and you beg your parents until they change their fricking minds.

Great example of what not to do. Begging will get you nowhere and will just make you look less mature in their minds ~ I say good on you for having the courage and respect to make the decision you did, if she's a nice girl then she will understand fully

[coolguy753]

If it was me, I'd go anyway. I don't mean any disrespect, I'm just saying what I'd do personally, as I don't see what can be lost from going out to a prom...what dangers are involved? You say you respect your parents too much. Surely your parents should return that respect by placing trust in you, you're clearly a mature individual. I can't really fathom the notion that you're not allowed out without parent's consent when you're at the end of high school.

[stevencho]

Great example of what not to do. Begging will get you nowhere and will just make you look less mature in their minds ~ I say good on you for having the courage and respect to make the decision you did, if she's a nice girl then she will understand fully

Well I didn't mean really beg. But being persistant shows how much something really means to you and maybe they'll take a second look.

[stevencho]

Not if she says no. There could be a chance she may have a change of heart, but bringing the topic up frequently, whether it would be on a weekly or annual basis, will likely cause her to just turn away.

Some people will come to terms with you and start liking you because of it, but others will still just turn down.

Being stubborn about it does work if you play the right cards, but don't be too persistent if she doesn't want the relationship between you two, otherwise she'll end up avoiding you.

It really is all in the matter of letting her be comfortable with you, as if she can talk about her problems without hesitation, and working with her, as well as letting her trust you enough for yourself to do almost anything with her. It just, takes, time. A lot of time, like maybe too much.

This has to do with Mariolee and his parents not letting him go to prom. Not Mariolee and the girl being in a relationship. :P

[Nerdysimmer]

This has to do with Mariolee and his parents not letting him go to prom. Not Mariolee and the girl being in a relationship. :P

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I need to lay off them sleepless nights.

Or read.

[Bastien]

I want a girl. How do I get one. And I want one like within a week or two.

[stevanR80]

i want a girl. How do i get one. And i want one like within a week or two.

....lol

[Bastien]

....lol

I'm serious.

[stevanR80]

I'm serious.

Sadly, it doesn't work like that 99% of the time. Idk how old you are, but you should know that by now.

[Bastien]

Sadly, it doesn't work like that 99% of the time. Idk how old you are, but you should know that by now.

Ive seen people do it. I just want a casual relationship with no commitment that doesn't last too long. But I want one as soon as possible. I just want some advice on how I could do that. I'm 19.

[stevanR80]

Ive seen people do it. I just want a casual relationship with no commitment that doesn't last too long. But I want one as soon as possible. I just want some advice on how I could do that. I'm 19.

Well good luck to you then.

[Bastien]

Well good luck to you then.

I dont need luck, I need advice.

[JoeyTheHedgehog]

Ok to start off, to me, love at 1st sight is total bullshit. Also, I think being a girls friend helps because your there for them and all that.

Alright, so I like this girl. I've been her friend since summer. Basically, I'm a close friend now. I'm almost 100% sure she likes me. She hangs out with me, asks me to go places with her, trusts me with anything, etc. I really want to ask her out. I tried going to my friends, but, they're all dumbasses when it comes to this stuff. Thus, I have came here. There's a dance tomorrow at school and I don't know if I should ask her out there or wait. I've gone 15 years without a girlfriend, and I think I want to end that. So, wtf should I do.