The Relationships Thread of Discussing the Enigma that is Women

[TheKoopaDasher]

Haha, Koopa. I think one of your problems is that you just haven't found a girl you're completely comfortable with. Someone you can do whatever you want in front of and it won't matter. Lol, I'm not bragging (or maybe I am) but I have someone really really important to me. We just shit talk on the phone for hours, say random things, read each others' minds, and go crazy. We're not in a relationship because of some small issues, but I'm still satisfied, stress-free, and completely happy that I can be best friends with someone like that. Lol, we both know that we still like each other though .. It's complicated but really simple ... but anyway, I think you just need someone like that, and when you find her you'll be happy.

Actually, I have met someone like that. And it was the single most amazing experience that I've ever had with another person, male or female, in my entire life. She was in one of my classes this semester, and we just started talking right out of the gate. And we clicked immediately. Instant chemistry. It was like speaking with my other half. It wasn't so much like finding an expansion pack, as Mariolee said, but more like... my life was a Rubik's cube before I met her, some parts complete, some parts jumbled, and meeting her brought them all together into the correct order. Previously in relationships, I've felt like I have to play a character. That character being essentially a less asshole-like version of my KoopaDasher personality here. The problem is, my real personality is nothing like KoopaDasher, so I feel like the girls always end up disappointed when they meet the real me. But with this girl... it wasn't like that. I felt instantly comfortable around her. She enjoyed talking to me, the real me. And being with her didn't just make me comfortable and confident being myself... it enhanced Me, giving me the courage to be parts of Me in real life that I've never had the confidence to be before. She was my final puzzle piece, my aligning of the planets. She was the girl that made me look at myself and say "I'm nerdy, I'm odd, I'm quirky, I'm random, I do strange things that most people don't find at all enjoyable, but dammit, that's me, and that's friggin' awesome." I was happy with her. But the difference was... I was happy without her. I was happy being me without her, but she enhanced my life in ways I never even dreamed could be possible. She brought my turtle personality out of its shell and showed me that yes, it is possible to just be yourself and be confident, and people will love you for it. And she's the only person I've ever met that has ever shown me that. We talked for hours, ages, about everything. She showed me books that she has tried to write that she has never shown anyone, and it was amazing how just being near her was like feeling the entire universe both working with me and disappearing around me at the same time. She was an angel, a goddess in disguise, and I will never, ever, ever forget her as long as I live.

Unfortunately, she has a boyfriend, and given the length of time they've been together, she'll probably marry him.

[Mariolee]

So about this girl I really like, I'm dieing to tell her that I like her. I'm really good friends with her and every time we talk she thinks that she's not pretty, and that no one likes her. It kills me just to hear her say that. Alas, I can't tell her. I'm moving in a month and I rather not have something happen and me leaving with regret.

Though I am planning on doing something. The day before I move, I'm going to tell her exactly how I feel. I'm not going to care about her reaction, I don't care what she thinks. I just need to tell her so badly. I just want to tell her that she is beautiful and that she shouldn't worry about her looks or anything.

How far away are you moving? Telling her you really like her, and then he returning those feelings will make the move that much harder. But then again, if she doesn't like you, it'll help take her off your mind.

[Unknown Flames]

How far away are you moving? Telling her you really like her, and then he returning those feelings will make the move that much harder. But then again, if she doesn't like you, it'll help take her off your mind.

I'm moving far enough that I won't ever see her again. If she does say that she has feelings for me, I wouldn't mind.

[Mariolee]

I'm moving far enough that I won't ever see her again. If she does say that she has feelings for me, I wouldn't mind.

Alright then. Remember, don't lose your nerve! I hate it when that happens.

[Flexx]

I've had the biggest luck streak so far...in the past 4-5 month almost every girl I was interested turned out to be a bitch after getting to know them for a couple weeks...feels good not rushing into a relationship only to find out you'd be better off without them. Remember, first looks aren't even 10% of the story.

[TheKoopaDasher]

I have an issue where several people at work seem to think a girl at work is interested in me, but I'm not really interested in her. I'm not even sure she's interested... she rarely talks to me, and their evidence isn't that great, but they keep telling me I should make a move. It's annoying, because while I can see why she might be appealing to them, and she doesn't seem like a bad person, I have no romantic interest in her. So now I have to deal with these random whispers at work about how I should date a girl I have no interest in.

[Flexx]

I have an issue where several people at work seem to think a girl at work is interested in me, but I'm not really interested in her. I'm not even sure she's interested... she rarely talks to me, and their evidence isn't that great, but they keep telling me I should make a move. It's annoying, because while I can see why she might be appealing to them, and she doesn't seem like a bad person, I have no romantic interest in her. So now I have to deal with these random whispers at work about how I should date a girl I have no interest in.

I have no idea why, but this cracked me up so bad. I dunno, maybe cause it's the fact that I wouldn't expect a workplace to function like a High School...either way, just ignore them. They'll shut up eventually.

[TheKoopaDasher]

I have no idea why, but this cracked me up so bad. I dunno, maybe cause it's the fact that I wouldn't expect a workplace to function like a High School...either way, just ignore them. They'll shut up eventually.

It wouldn't be so bad if my dad had not found out about her. He's practically foaming at the mouth to see me make a move. He's even offered (multiple times) to ask her out FOR me. That's how desperate he is to see me get a date with this girl. He's tried to bribe me with different things (paying for the date, letting me borrow his "better" car, cooking my favorite meals, etc) JUST so I will ask this girl out. And it's SO ANNOYING. I don't WANT a date with this girl, and no matter how many times I tell him that, he simply will not take no as an answer. Every day it's the same "Oh, if I were your age again, I would have asked her out a long time ago...". It's so frustrating that I would be very close to lying and telling him that I am gay just to get him to shut up, but that would open even more questions.

[Flexx]

It wouldn't be so bad if my dad had not found out about her. He's practically foaming at the mouth to see me make a move. He's even offered (multiple times) to ask her out FOR me. That's how desperate he is to see me get a date with this girl. He's tried to bribe me with different things (paying for the date, letting me borrow his "better" car, cooking my favorite meals, etc) JUST so I will ask this girl out. And it's SO ANNOYING. I don't WANT a date with this girl, and no matter how many times I tell him that, he simply will not take no as an answer. Every day it's the same "Oh, if I were your age again, I would have asked her out a long time ago...". It's so frustrating that I would be very close to lying and telling him that I am gay just to get him to shut up, but that would open even more questions.

Once again, a hilarious post...this is one heck of a situation you're in, I don't envy you one bit. I would think having my peers pressure me into this would be bad enough, let alone my own freaking Dad. I honestly don;t know man, just humour them and ask her out on a date? Who knows, you may find something about her that you like.

[rpgfreak]

I hate when you like a girl but she tells you she just wants to be friends.

[TheKoopaDasher]

Once again, a hilarious post...this is one heck of a situation you're in, I don't envy you one bit. I would think having my peers pressure me into this would be bad enough, let alone my own freaking Dad. I honestly don;t know man, just humour them and ask her out on a date? Who knows, you may find something about her that you like.

1) I have very little funds that I'm not forced to save to spend on gas for my car during college. I'm trying to find another job, but for right now I have almost no extra money to spend on dates, even if I wanted to go on a date.

2) This girl is at work. I have enough experience with breakups to know that the last thing I want is an awkward work day because of a girl. Don't shit where you eat, as they say.

3) We have very little, if anything in common. I know the types of girls I can get along with well, based on shared interests and ideas. She's not one of those girls. For me, relationships are based on an intellectual and creative relationship as much as a romantic one. And we share no interests.

4) I'm not attracted to her. Yes, she's attractive. But she's not attractive in the sense that I lose my mind when I see her. It's more in the "Yeah, I can see why you like her, but for me.... meh" sense.

5) Her behavior irks me. Just... the way she behaves, the way she talks to people, the things she does, the way she speaks... she's one of those girls that still uses baby-style talk even 18 years later. And that's how she treats people... like she's babysitting them, regardless of their age. And that frustrates me. I couldn't date a girl like that.

6) I don't want to date. I don't enjoy dating. It's very stressful for me. And I'm perfectly happy right now without that stress.

[Mariolee]

I hate when you like a girl but she tells you she just wants to be friends.

Everyone hates that. It sucks.
Better than, "Haha, you think I would go out with a loser like you!?"
Or is it?

@Koopa

Yeah...you're making the right choice. Don't do it.

[Flexx]

she's one of those girls that still uses baby-style talk even 18 years later.

OH FUCK THAT, fuck that.

[rpgfreak]

Better than, "Haha, you think I would go out with a loser like you!?"

I'd rather have that. It's torture to have her continue talk to me and see her get with other guys while I watch and wish.

[TheKoopaDasher]

I hate when you like a girl but she tells you she just wants to be friends.

Few things are more emotionally and mentally scarring than the friend zone. I went on what I thought was a date with a girl one time and she spent the entire "date" talking about how hot Taylor Lautner was. I wish I were joking. Another girl told me a week after I told her how I felt about her that she had started dating a guy from church. Another went completely gaga over me, even going so far as to tell me how happy I made her and show me where she had been writing my name accidentally during the day, only to tell me she couldn't handle that much commitment when I told her I liked her as well. It sucks.

[Flexx]

Few things are more emotionally and mentally scarring than the friend zone. I went on what I thought was a date with a girl one time and she spent the entire "date" talking about how hot Taylor Lautner was. I wish I were joking. Another girl told me a week after I told her how I felt about her that she had started dating a guy from church. Another went completely gaga over me, even going so far as to tell me how happy I made her and show me where she had been writing my name accidentally during the day, only to tell me she couldn't handle that much commitment when I told her I liked her as well. It sucks.

But seriously, stay the FUCK away from that girl. Please let her know for me what a stain on humanity she is.

[Mariolee]

I'd rather have that. It's torture to have her continue talk to me and see her get with other guys while I watch and wish.

I think they're both equally terrible.

"Haha!": There's a lot of immediate embarrassment from the people around you guys, as well as a reputation that goes down for you, and that's on top of the heartbreak.

"Just friends": You feel less shame, but the hurt is prolonged if you don't get over it.

OH FUCK THAT, fuck that.

I...think that's kinda cute. Different strokes for different blokes and folks I suppose.

[TheKoopaDasher]

I...think that's kinda cute. Different strokes for different blokes and folks I suppose.

Seriously? Gah, it gets on my nerves. If she was a mom trying to coo a baby to sleep, OK, but it loses its cuteness when she's talking to a 55 year old man in the same cooing voice she would use trying to babysit a 4 year old. It has this very high-pitched nasally whine to it, with an inflection that suggests you're 2 years old and she's trying to humor you. That's just how she talks... all the time... to everyone.

[Mariolee]

Seriously? Gah, it gets on my nerves. If she was a mom trying to coo a baby to sleep, OK, but it loses its cuteness when she's talking to a 55 year old man in the same cooing voice she would use trying to babysit a 4 year old. It has this very high-pitched nasally whine to it, with an inflection that suggests you're 2 years old and she's trying to humor you. That's just how she talks... all the time... to everyone.

Oh wait, to everyone? I thought you meant like when she's flirting that she'll talk to you in a cutesy voice like that. Yeah, that would get pretty annoying.

[Flexx]

Oh wait, to everyone? I thought you meant like when she's flirting that she'll talk to you in a cutesy voice like that. Yeah, that would get pretty annoying.

I honestly think I'd rather castrate myself than be in a relationship with a girl like that. Absolutely awful, and no I'm not over-exaggerating.