The Relationships Thread of Discussing the Enigma that is Women

[Mariolee]

...Or men. Throughout our lives, since the first time we met someone of the opposite sex (that wasn't our padre or our madre), we were intrigued. Various questions popped into our heads such as,

"Why do we go to separate bathrooms?" "Why do women get so bitchy?" "Why is my other acting weird?" "How do I break up with her without her hating me?" "How do I get this girl to like me?" "Who is this TOM they keep speaking of?!"

This thread is meant to ask these questions and more, (so we don't flood Slyder's thread). For bros and hoes alike to discuss relationships and how the heck they work. You can ask questions, others will answer, pretty much how a discussion works. So, bombs away!

[HolyCowfartsBatman]

Ok, I'll post it here too

Basically, my girlfriend and I have had a pretty rough time of being together, not because of us, but because of others, we used to be together quite openly but unfortunately, that didn't work out too well, we broke up... but I was kind of left in the dark as to why. I eventually (a few months later) talked to her about why this was and it turned out that it was because everyone would redicule us and taunt us and she really hated it, she wasn't used to being known and she really didn't want to be known and teased. This is sorta relevant because when we went out, we talked on MSN, we used text chat, video chat, all sorts, and we quite frequently put kisses on the end of our messages, now we're together and nobody else knows... that seems to have changed... we've never video chatted, only by regular MSN, and believe me, that's great, when we talk it's fantastic! We can joke around with each other, we can be very serious if needed, it's pretty much perfect, only thing is... the amount of kisses has dissapeared... and yes, I know this is a stupid thing to be worried about, but it's just kind of bugging me... I still put the same amount of kisses at the end of my messages but she seems to only really do it at the beginning and end of our chat, now, I don't think this is intentional because she still does it when chatting only it appears to be very infrequent. Also, we used to put hearts at the end of our chats and now I seem to be the only one doing it...


Oh yeah.. and another thing is she keeps talking about Edward freakin' Cullen!! Haha =P

[Mariolee]

Ok, I'll post it here too

Basically, my girlfriend and I have had a pretty rough time of being together, not because of us, but because of others, we used to be together quite openly but unfortunately, that didn't work out too well, we broke up... but I was kind of left in the dark as to why. I eventually (a few months later) talked to her about why this was and it turned out that it was because everyone would redicule us and taunt us and she really hated it, she wasn't used to being known and she really didn't want to be known and teased. This is sorta relevant because when we went out, we talked on MSN, we used text chat, video chat, all sorts, and we quite frequently put kisses on the end of our messages, now we're together and nobody else knows... that seems to have changed... we've never video chatted, only by regular MSN, and believe me, that's great, when we talk it's fantastic! We can joke around with each other, we can be very serious if needed, it's pretty much perfect, only thing is... the amount of kisses has dissapeared... and yes, I know this is a stupid thing to be worried about, but it's just kind of bugging me... I still put the same amount of kisses at the end of my messages but she seems to only really do it at the beginning and end of our chat, now, I don't think this is intentional because she still does it when chatting only it appears to be very infrequent. Also, we used to put hearts at the end of our chats and now I seem to be the only one doing it...


Oh yeah.. and another thing is she keeps talking about Edward freakin' Cullen!! Haha =P

Like I said in the other thread, try to pick up how she feels in real life. If you can't since she's so quiet, I'm not sure what else I can say. Cause I feel like if you ask her, she'll know you're becoming suspicious, and might be turned off by that. Right now, just ride with it.

Ok, so the girl I was talking about in Slyder's thread, the one who my best friend kissed, just told me she "loved" me today. You know something's wrong when the first word that pops into my head is "BS". She barely knows me, we haven't actually gone out on an actual date in months (though we do see each other everyday at school), and I kinda feel like she's simply picking up what she's learned from romance movies. She even said once that romantic movies are based on real life. WHAT.
I think I'm going to break up with her, I've been feeling this way for awhile, but I just don't have the heart (read: balls) to do it, especially since she keeps talking about Sadie Hawkin's dance. What do you guys think I should do?

[Eggboy'13]

*Waits for a women to enter thread*

[DeathSpawn11]

Lets review every single relationship I've pursued, shall we?

1. Liked some other faggot more than me. Got straight up shut down and she moved to a different city.
2. Had random raging crush on me, I got creeped out and blocked her. She's now my step-cousin.
3. Didn't view me the way I viewed her, didn't even try.
4. Liked for a month, didn't think anything would happen. Lost interest. She dated a kid I h8 with a passion. Then revealed she had a raging crush on me.
5. Found out I liked her, forgot I existed, she only talks to me now when she needs something.
6. Was apparent (I guess) we liked each other, but things quickly fell apart into friendship and she dated some other kid.
7. Met her at a concert, punched her in the head twice, got her number, we became great friends, then because of personal differences we decided it wouldn't work out at all. Super lulz because she started bitching to me about her latest ex about a month later.

Women suck.
End of freaking story.

[Unknown Flames]

I'm only 14,

I need wisdom.

[tmrd]

...Or men if you are a girl.

Or if you are a guy. Nothing wrong with that

[Mariolee]

Lets review every single relationship I've pursued, shall we?

1. Liked some other faggot more than me. Got straight up shut down and she moved to a different city.
2. Had random raging crush on me, I got creeped out and blocked her. She's now my step-cousin.
3. Didn't view me the way I viewed her, didn't even try.
4. Liked for a month, didn't think anything would happen. Lost interest. She dated a kid I h8 with a passion. Then revealed she had a raging crush on me.
5. Found out I liked her, forgot I existed, she only talks to me now when she needs something.
6. Was apparent (I guess) we liked each other, but things quickly fell apart into friendship and she dated some other kid.
7. Met her at a concert, punched her in the head twice, got her number, we became great friends, then because of personal differences we decided it wouldn't work out at all. Super lulz because she started bitching to me about her latest ex about a month later.

Women suck.
End of freaking story.

I'm probably completely wrong on this, so I'm going to spoiler it in case you want to read: I feel from most of these examples that you never actually told a girl that you wanted to date her, except maybe for the last one, but even that never actually got into relationship mode. Is this an accurate inference?

I'm only 14,

I need wisdom.

Need to be more specific.

[Brettska99]

In my case. i just got back with my ex-girlfriend. We dated for a year, then due to arguments broke it off. We started talking again half a year after our break up and are now back together. I love being in a relationship and being loved.

But to men who afraid to talk to girls, dont be. Most of the time you have nothing to really lose anyways. I'm sure a lot of us here have been rejected at least once or twice.

[YoshiStar]

I love girls Yay! Nothing note worthy to share.

[super-mega-hyper-sonic]

Yoshistar always gets the chicks


=P

[KoopaDasher]

My most recent failure:

So I met this friend of a friend at the latter's birthday party, and we really hit it off. Started talking online til like 3 am in the morning every night, started hanging out to play video games. But she was in a relationship... and had been in that relationship for like 5 years. They were living together. Then one day while I was complaining about my lack of ability to find a girlfriend, she told me she had a crush on me. Kind of a shocker... I've never actually had a girl tell me she liked me before. But anyway, so I feel like I was some sort of catalyst for this, but she swears I'm not: she broke up with her boyfriend. And she was extremely happy about it.

We started hanging out more... like every weekend, during lunch, between classes, continuing to talk online every night. And then we started making out, and before you knew it we were acting just like boyfriends/girlfriends should together. So of course, knowing this, I started falling for her. She told me she just needed some time to get over her breakup, but then at the same time every time I asked her about her breakup she told me she was fine, that she didn't need any healing because she had wanted this.

And then I found out other things... like that she had not told her parents that she had broken up with her boyfriend of 5 years and that he was sleeping on the couch... she told me I was so much more than a friend to her, that she loved me, that it was inevitable that we would be together, that the idea of a future with me had even crossed her mind, but she refused to go into a relationship with me, on the basis that she needed time to heal, even though she already said she doesn't... and even though every time I asked her, she said she was very close to her parents and told them everything, she never told them that I was anything more than a friend to her... even to her friends, many of whom knew that we were involved, she introduced me basically as her boy toy, rather than someone that she loved and cared about. I even mentioned that latter bit to her, and she denied that it meant anything.

But more and more I got the feeling that I was being used by her, that she cared nothing about me and had no intention of ever being in a relationship with me. I mentioned this to her one night, and she denied it completely, but at the same time the things that made me feel that way didn't improve. And after that night, she just stopped talking to me. She stopped meeting me at our normal spots, stopped meeting me for lunch, stopped signing online to chat every night, stopped calling or texting me, stopped everything. It all happened right after that day, all at once, with no warning. I sent her a message telling her I would just remove my presence from her life so that it would not darken her life's doorway again, and she messaged me back on Facebook with one sentence, telling me that she does want me as a friend in her life. Specifically friend, nothing more. But I've heard that before... it's what girls say when they're ready to break up with you, because they can't bring themselves to say that they would be happier if you never spoke to them again. It's the same line I've heard 40+ times. And so I ended it. I gave her stuff that I had to our mutual friend to give back to her, and I removed her from my Facebook. So far she has yet to contact me about it, so I can only assume she doesn't give a f#$%.

[coolguy753]

Greg, can you re-post? I was interested in reading yours but then something came up.

[Vengeance]

I kinda had second thoughts about posting it... it was literally a huge wall of text and I wasn't sure if I was completely comfortable with some of the stuff in there. I did save it in a Word document though.

[Unknown Flames]

Need to be more specific.

Strange things are happening to my body, please help D:

No but seriously, I'm still pretty young, so I'm not in the DATE scene yet. My parents want me to get an arranged marrige, seeing that I'm a traditional Indian. I can't really do anything about it, so I'm just going with the flow. I didn't really need advice, I just wanted to raise my post count or something.

:P

[DeathSpawn11]

I'm probably completely wrong on this, so I'm going to spoiler it in case you want to read: I feel from most of these examples that you never actually told a girl that you wanted to date her, except maybe for the last one, but even that never actually got into relationship mode. Is this an accurate inference?

Somewhat.
I approached 1 and got shot down, didn't have much interest in 2 but she was just creepy, 3 pretty much stated she didn't like me that way before I made it apparent that I liked her, I didn't give much thought to 4 and didn't realize she liked me, that opportunity flew past me quickly.
5 went down like this. "I HERD U LIEK ME LOTZ" "Yes. :3" "Ok." "...." /TheEnd
Like I said, 6 fell apart before I even considered telling her anything. It was talked about with 7, but our lifestyle differences and distance between us made it became apparent that things were clearly not going to work out at all.

I won't say anything to a girl if it's apparent she's going to turn me down.

[master_general]

Alright. This is good actually.

I am in a crush over a girl. A strong crush, not a weak "high school" crush, but like a very strong crush on her. I think she likes me. We have had one date, and I really want to ask the question, but I am unsure how to ask her. I am thinking of asking her to Harry Potter this weekend since we both are wanting to see it and everything. But I am unsure whether to continue to wait and ask her out after the movie or should I pop the question before then? I am unsure about when I should pop the question. Any advice here?

[KoopaDasher]

But I am unsure whether to continue to wait and ask her out after the movie or should I pop the question before then? I am unsure about when I should pop the question. Any advice here?

Umm... forgive my ignorance, but exactly what question would you be popping? I've only heard that in reference to marriage proposals...

[master_general]

Umm... forgive my ignorance, but exactly what question would you be popping? I've only heard that in reference to marriage proposals...

Bleh, my bad. The "date me?" question. >_< Sorry bout that.

[super-mega-hyper-sonic]

I think he means asking her out.